I think it's an anticipation - - keep the child quiet, just a little longer. Just need to get a little bit more done, I'll make up for it later. . .
This mentality has caused a shift in our reality - one that has enhanced the feeling of entitlement and getting someone else to do the work at hand for you. "Pets" are funny that way, and just as they have learned to smell fear they are not afraid to attempt extortion or blackmail to get what they want. Some have learned so well the art of negotiation I've begun to wonder if their future vocation will be in politics :P
We start in this world weak, and helpless then continue on to if all goes well and we have received the basics of life education can go on and become an individual. The controversy occurs on the time line that should be used to move one from helpless to helpful in the world.
The amazing thing is the virtual mind split that seems to occur as they get into school. Things that would have never crossed a child's mind in class (like dumping packing peanuts on the floor and then walking away, leaving it for someone else to clean up) can seem common place when at home.
So the question that seems to catch my attention is when did the supposed parent become the slave? When did parents give up the role of mentor and educator to the power of the mob?
The ramifications to this world is rather scary when training and education is given up solely to the mob or the state.
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I also wonder if the reality for the parent isn't just constant vigelence. Never allowing those things to happen that you do not want to happen on a regular basis. One of the best pieces of advice I ever heard is "don't let them do something at a very small age that you don't want them to do at 16 or 60".
I also know that the child's job is constant boundary exploration. Trying to see if you will hold the line every time you say, or only sometimes. And when one piece of the boundary has been tested and proved, that doesn't mean that another section is as strong. And how are they going to know, unless they try it. Animals, by the way, are exactly the same. Horses are nothing but two thousand pound three year olds. :P
Archeantus
i wonder if parents really know what they are getting into when they decide to have a child. . .
it's only now that start becomeing more observant that i can see just how dangerous mixed signals can be. not only for children but for the world of polotics in general.
in the past i always liked the old story of how the indaian tribes taught children about fire. warn them and then let them get a little burned to help the message stick if they still want to play with the fire.
too bad fire is banned in most cities without a permit :P
sadly though there seems to be more one-shot-kill items in the world now where this really isn't an option. constant vigilance does seem to be the cost of parenthood, since the villiage already has enough idiots and there is no sense in adding another to their rank.
although there are times when i think we should instate the darwin award as it's own educational institute :)
I LOVE the Darwin awards - course sometimes I realize I have seen someone I know try some of those (sometimes I realize it was me!!!)
And I think that is what happens with children - you can warn them, and warn them, but there does come a time when the parent or someone who loves them is not around to remind them. And they do stick their hand in the fire, or the cigarette box, or the -fill in the blank-. And then it is up to them to do what is right and make it right. Parents can't take away free agency and accountablity. The parent can only teach and reinforce. There comes a time that the child must stand on their own. That is the sign of a good parent - to teach the child enough to run themselves out of a job. :)
At least that's what someone told me once!!! LOL
Archeantus
- sorry for not replying earlier -
when i got my first full time job that was my manager's goal was too :) to get us to the point where he had the freedom to come and go and know the job would still get done.
but sometimes i wonder does society protect too much? so many stupid laws, warning lables (ex. the don't drink paint thinner label, and cigarettes might cause cancer). these are things that are common sense to me, and a child would not be able to read anyway.
i guess we thank the lawyers and political leaders for the politically correct delusions of the world we live in today :P
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